Spot on post Joan,
It did take along time to get accepted and having to prove that you weren't just some sort of ship just passing in the nite, I suppose these days we call em handbaggers...lol.
It was even harder being a girlie collecting music in a typically male orientated world too and had similar expeiences when searching for that elusive sound.
I really don't think we are as suspicious about youngsters coming on to the scene these days as what we were and are more accepting, despite some 'keyboard warriors' suggesting otherwise.
There was ''etiqutte'' on the scene that was adhered too such as the dancefloor as an example - if you were good you were at the front not too bad then the middle etc etc .... You had to prove yourself, practice your dancing and reap the rewards, same similar sort of etiquette applied to the Djay lists too with breaking a must have sound and earning respect from your peers.
Now it appears that, like you already suggested, those that 'shout loudest on an internet forum' can command everything that many of us worked hard to achieve.