I was a newbie pretty much the same time as you Joan, maybe a year or so later I think but I don't really remember having any trouble. I started going to nighters with some established "soulies" from the Chesterfield and Mansfield area, Tats & Rob Wigley, Graham Manlove, Alan Gibbons etc and was pretty well looked after.
Got to know the elders of the scene pretty quickly and started collecting more or less straight away so was never out of the record bar at nighters. I went somewhere every weekend both Friday and Saturday, usually a soul night followed by a nighter.
Generally I treated people the way I wished to be treat and I showed repsect to those who had been around, didn't shoot my mouth off (I'm not that type anyway ) and i listened and I learned. I was never afraid to ask a question no matter how trivial and found most more than happy to help. I certainly wouldn't have insulted long standing soulies claimed back then to have known more than they have forgotten, I'd have been done over Imagine telling Pete Lawson that
As for Pete, never had a problem with him, finished up a good mate. He gave me the odd bollocking, usually when I asked for the rare stuff records don't have to be rare to be good he would say, how true! He got us out of the odd scrape or two, paid for taxi's back to Chesterfield from the odd place, returned the favour etc etc..top bloke sadly missed.