I stopped going partly for personal reasons, but mostly because I was bored, there seemed to be no natural progression, different genres were appearing, popcorn/latin/R&B but I'm not a great lover of that sort of stuff, I was and am, preferring the modern sound a lot of the time over the classics. It could rightly be said, I chose my venues so the musical fare was down to me, I wouldn't deny that, but the constant barrage of oldies was becoming monotonous and even new/rare stuff becomes old hat if it doesn't fit in with your own understanding/description of a genre. Hence the need for me to see the scene moving forward, but as I've already mentioned from my own perspective, I preferred modern and felt/feel that is the natural progression, rather than some of the sub-genres I've already mentioned.
The other thing I found was I missed dancing, and I missed the people, I know we're not really all best mates, that can't be when the only thing that really binds you is music, but there definitely is an affinity between most of us and reading reports of venues, made me realise I was missing out and the scene still had something to offer me. Name checking Dave Abbott here, because whilst I wasn't going out he took the time to send me some of the funkier northern he was playing, and I found I liked it, and that went some way to getting me to want to put on the dancing shoes again.
Another thing that really affected me was losing friends for ever, and a simple message I got that said, ''you live once, go out and live'', I've thanked the girl who sent me that, because it stopped me wallowing.
Currently I'm out every week and thoroughly enjoying it, I should probably have never stopped, but I've addressed that now
Winnie