Don't wish to apply this to anyone on this thread as I've not read many of the postings but I do think the way we sell and buy records on the scene generally bizzare. If I went into a clothing shop and tried on a jumper, said I loved it and said I'll be back later to buy it; I'd not expect to be arrested for not coming back. I also wouldn't be surprised if the shop had sold out if I returned the next day.
What does surprise me is the haste some sellers post 'sold' or 'on hold' after listing their sales. On one hand it's nice to let people know your sales have been successful but it puts off potential bidders if they see it's been sold or is on hold.
Personally I never put sold or on hold on any of my lists due to the fact that you do get people who's eyes and wants lists are bigger than their paypackets. Not something I get angry about either. I let buyers know that if I don't get the money then the record isn't theirs and I'm still open to offers later. Many times I've had requests for tunes I listed many months previously which I could have listed as sold at the time but didn't get the dosh.
My advice, for what it's worth, is don't count a record is sold untill you withdraw the money from your paypal account or until the cheque is cashed. It's always worked for me. I thangyou.