Go out and enjoy what you have, we're a long time gone. Can you really substitute the living room for a room full of folk being "taken higher" by the DJ in question? I'm 53, in a relationship, in employment, still able to travel to a venue with a partner with no scene history who loves it all, and I count myself lucky for that. Our ventures are usually weekenders which we plan for months in advance. We all know each other, so there's a kind of unmanufactured togetherness factor which is very, very special. The music is top drawer and most varied. I consider myself a progressive sort, open to new sounds, but still get off on hearing the Del-Larks at 5am from Keith Money or Jimmy Burns from SteveG, Frankie Beverly from Soul Sam and whatever exclusive real deal job Butch might throw at you. It's still out there, you just have to be selective. Like someone else mentioned before, me and my partner factor in other things into the weekend, like meeting up for a 'fraternal lunch' with the crowd, afternoon drinks and bar hopping and "time to yourselves siestas" (mega important) before the evening really kicks off. Some people might scorn this, feeling that it's a million miles from the original ethos of the scene, i.e. spend all day travelling to some grothole, run the gauntlet of the drunks in the town centre, drop your gear and then dance, plough through record boxes or 'verbal' on the same spot all night to any similar-minded nutter. I no longer want that, and even if I did, it's no longer there. My eye is now on Movin' On in Barcelona early December, 'cos I can't make the Prince Phillip Mitchell Soul4Real weekender next month in Bilbao, which pains me mucho. Wake up and live etc...