Ive had the similar experience as you,my 19 year old daughter has been brought up on soul music and has no interested in soul music at all,and over the years ive took loads of non soulies to soul venues which they then usually use as amunition to make fun of me at a later date as they prop up the bar in my local.
men dancing together, o.a.p disco, throwing talc on the floor ect ect