Living With Non Soulies

[Drew3]

Have family or friends ever admitted to liking a soul record when they normally slag the music off?

My 8yr old son, who has had his mind poisoned by his mother, secretly tells me and asks me to play Showdown by Archie Bell. He likes the talking at the begining.

My 18yr old daughter when she was younger used to ask me to play a tape in the car with What by Judy Street but she would never admit to liking it at home.

What records have your loved ones owned up to liking?

KTF.

Drew.

[Guest martyn]

Have family or friends ever admitted to liking a soul record when they normally slag the music off?

My 8yr old son, who has had his mind poisoned by his mother, secretly tells me and asks me to play Showdown by Archie Bell. He likes the talking at the begining.

My 18yr old daughter when she was younger used to ask me to play a tape in the car with What by Judy Street but she would never admit to liking it at home.

What records have your loved ones owned up to liking?

KTF.

Drew.

What !! The talking bit about "Ill meet you in (whatever street)Hey Hey theres gonna be a.. etc etc etc...What well balanced kids you have .Unlike mine who is a complete numpty music wise.

[Edwin S Wales]

when I've got the boxes out,my little girl (7yrs)..always asks me to play ..the Soul Blenders..Tightrope and Jerry Jackson...it's Rough Out There

Good taste or what?

Edited May 26, 2006 by Edwin S.Wales

[Guest martyn]

when I've got the boxes out,my little girl (7yrs)..always asks me to play ..the Soul Blenders..Tightrope and Jerry Jackson...it's Rough Out There

Good taste or what?

Oh yes,keep it up

[John Reed]

My wife was never a keen soul fan and still says "I still can't understand why grown men would sing to each other"

My children queue up to listen to my Ipod when I come in from work

Larry Allen - Can We talk it over - Green dolphin seems to be their favourite track.

I suppose it's the piano, that would appeal to the under sevens

John

[Guest Matt Male]

Living with a non-soulie is a nightmare. My wife gets our two year old boys to jump about and says it's 'daddy dancing'

As soon as they old enough though the indoctrination begins...

[Guest]

Can't imagine living with a non-soulie, life would be unbearable, have to listen to soul music in my house everyday (as loud as possible)

[Guest miff]

I live in a non soulful household, Wife kids all hate it, its beginning to get to be a problem, what with money for records, going off to all-nighters, weekenders, soul nights, its like trying to live two different lives, soulie on one hand, family man on the other, I try to be fair as I can with my spare time but its hard, To be fair to the wife she gives me a long leash to run on. I have on more the one occasion had the

" You think more of those records then me " Line & at certain times she has a point

I've even thought about giving it all up and selling up, but its all part of my make up and it soon passes,

I wonder how long before she's had enough

[Guest]

I know how you feel, Miff! Been dragging my wife out(against her will!) and she's has a good time now. Her complaint is when I'm broke and the packages keep showing up at the door("oh, I bought that 2 months ago! It's finally here" ) My sons almost two and doesn't know there are other types of music ...Let's keep it that way!

-Mike

[Dave Moore]

I know how you feel, Miff! Been dragging my wife out(against her will!) and she's has a good time now. Her complaint is when I'm broke and the packages keep showing up at the door("oh, I bought that 2 months ago! It's finally here" ) My sons almost two and doesn't know there are other types of music ...Let's keep it that way!

-Mike

Hi Mike,

Be careful.........Styrene reads this sometimes!! She's been there too!

When my little "cherub' was growing up he used to hang around with me and the records so he's got an ear for it....sort of. I still find tapes in his car that disappeared from mine 10/15 years ago!

As a nipper he used to ask...."Hey Dad, play:

"Clock that fell off the wall" - (Chubby Checker - Everything's Wrong)

"Funny Funny Feeling" - (Al Kent - Way You Been Acting Lately)

"A Little Bit Stronger" - Chuck Jackson - I Only Get This Feeling)

"That one with the 'squeaky voice'" - (Little Anthony - Gonna Fix You Good)

As he went through his teenage years he liked all the Ric Tic/Golden World stuff and used to ring me up to ask what songs were called.

He never caught the vinyl bug however, and now thinks his Dad is this rather strange wide eyed buffoon who should be sat in a dark corner to pore over the strange little black plastic things from the last century, that take up most of his life. When he has a beer he does a great impression of a Northern Soul dancer. A sort of finger clickin, hand clapping, air drum playing banshee!! Hey....that sounds like someone we know!!

Regards,

Dave

www.hitsvillesoulclub.com

[Steve G]

Long before wanting to go out with a girl into northern my son fessed up to the Royal Esquires - he liked it because it reminded him of Drum N Bassjava script:emoticon:ohmy:

[Guest Johnny Mack]

Think we all suffer from the "sad dad" syndrome, but once or twice its nice to get a reaction out of the family.

The better half is Colombian so anything latino is permissable, plus she'll tolerate crossover and motown.

Fave northern record from my 14 year old daughter is Roosevelt Grier's "Pizza Pie Man"

-a little lady with good taste !!!

Take care

John

[Billywhizz]

I live in a non soulful household, Wife kids all hate it, its beginning to get to be a problem, what with money for records, going off to all-nighters, weekenders, soul nights, its like trying to live two different lives, soulie on one hand, family man on the other, I try to be fair as I can with my spare time but its hard, To be fair to the wife she gives me a long leash to run on. I have on more the one occasion had the

" You think more of those records then me " Line & at certain times she has a point

I've even thought about giving it all up and selling up, but its all part of my make up and it soon passes,

I wonder how long before she's had enough

Miff my heart go out to you follow your instincts males dominate the world i better go she wants me to do the washing up now lol.

Billy

[Guest Rowly]

Luckily I tend to monopolise the music machines in my house.... and Definately no one else gets a look - in in the car!

My 15 year old lad says he hates my music - but I catch him grooving & singinging along all the time! "It's because I hear it all the time dad!" is the reply......

When I've got the boxes out and getting going on the decks at home, requests I always get from my 9 year old daughter are for

Detroit city Limits 98c + Tax, Don Gardner - M.B.L.T.Boogaloo, John Lee Hooker - Money, Jr. Wells - Checkin On My Baby, Ray Scott - Right Now, & Kim Weston - Take Me In Your Arms

[Guest Rowly]

I live in a non soulful household, Wife kids all hate it, its beginning to get to be a problem, what with money for records, going off to all-nighters, weekenders, soul nights, its like trying to live two different lives, soulie on one hand, family man on the other, I try to be fair as I can with my spare time but its hard, To be fair to the wife she gives me a long leash to run on. I have on more the one occasion had the

" You think more of those records then me " Line & at certain times she has a point

I've even thought about giving it all up and selling up, but its all part of my make up and it soon passes,

I wonder how long before she's had enough

Oooh been there mate. Tho mine tends to go through phases. Currently she's being pretty tolerent!

We've come to a loose understanding that I go out twice a month.... gets so hard picking & chosing what I'm gonna go to tho!

Edited May 27, 2006 by Rowly

[Stuart Bower]

I`ve tried living with non-soulies. Doesn`t work. They just don`t get it. This scene has more or less been my life since 1972. I eventually left, moved on. Stuck to women in the scene. Full stop.

Edited May 27, 2006 by The Soul Intention

[Guest Matt Male]

I`ve tried living with non-soulies. Doesn`t work. They just don`t get it. This scene has more or less been my life since 1972. I eventually left, moved on. Stuck to women in the scene. Full stop.

What's it like being married to another soulie though? Isn't it worse having them tag along to soul nights and share your records !!! Especially one you've converted and ends up knowing more than you do ... What if they hate your favourite sound? What if they prefer R&B and you like disco?

Good thread

M.

[Gary]

("oh, I bought that 2 months ago! It's finally here" )

-Mike

Oh, how familiar

[Guest mrs norman maine]

Years ago, after muttering "aren't you a bit too old for those discos of yours now?" my mum decided to look through some tapes I had, so that she could prove that she knew all about "that music of yours". She went through the track listing on one tape, saying that she'd heard of ALL of the artists, before proudly insisting that she'd definitely seen Bob & Fred on Top of the Pops.

Off topic, I know, but her finest moment was losing a £5 bet to a child (me) by refusing to believe that a panel member on Juke Box Jury wasn't Elkie Brooks. It was actually Ian Gillan. I made a lot of money from my mum in my youth.

[Guest mrs norman maine]

Especially one you've converted and ends up knowing more than you do ...

M.

Oh yeah that can be bad too! I went out with a non-Northern bloke who took about one month to absorb vast amounts of knowledge. Is it a bloke thing? I know men are generally supposed to be further along the autistic continuum, but really.........

[Winsford Soul]

Have family or friends ever admitted to liking a soul record when they normally slag the music off?

My 8yr old son, who has had his mind poisoned by his mother, secretly tells me and asks me to play Showdown by Archie Bell. He likes the talking at the begining.

My 18yr old daughter when she was younger used to ask me to play a tape in the car with What by Judy Street but she would never admit to liking it at home.

What records have your loved ones owned up to liking?

KTF.

Drew.

I wouldnt live with a non soulie. Ex wife first date Casino . Ex partner first date Longton miners nighter / Stoke . Current partner first date Cricketers nighter . If they aint got Soul they aint got me.

Steve

[Billywhizz]

I wouldnt live with a non soulie. Ex wife first date Casino . Ex partner first date Longton miners nighter / Stoke . Current partner first date Cricketers nighter . If they aint got Soul they aint got me.

Steve

I like that Steve if they ain't got Soul thay haven't got me I wonder if I can fit that on my sweat-shirt. Billy

[Guest Bernadette]

I've been in into Soul since the 70's and been with a non-soulie for the last 17 years & going strong

Although I'm on a long leash I have to priortise which events I go to otherwise a divorce would be on the cards! I've dragged him along but he gets bored and goes home early so I prefer to go on my own & meet up with like minded soul mates

We have separate rooms in the house for our music which seem to work - it helps that we have no kids - his music does my head in

He's big into new technology and thinks I'm mental preferring vinyl especially when I say CD's produce too clean a sound

He spends loads on CD's and has a hugely expensive system which he's always upgrading so I don't in the least feel guilty about buying records

Ultimately he understands that being a soul girl is integral to me as a person and I would be unhappy if he gave me hard time about it

[Simsy]

On questioning my 11 year old daughter, "what's your favourite northern soul record"? She replied, "none". On questioning one's spouse she said "the one with the telephone at the beginning". This turned out to be 9 Times by the Moments. Daughter then says "oh yeah that one's quite good". I told her she'd made her decision and couldn't glom on to her mother's choice.

[Nick Hackett]

It just doesnt work..i was married to a non soulie,in the end she divorced me...unreasonable record collecting!

[Guest Rowly]

QUOTE(recordwanted @ May 27 2006, 03:31 AM) ("oh, I bought that 2 months ago! It's finally here" )

-Mike

Oh, how familiar

[Guest Rich]

I`ve tried living with non-soulies. Doesn`t work. They just don`t get it. This scene has more or less been my life since 1972. I eventually left, moved on. Stuck to women in the scene. Full stop.

I was totally opposite - I went with women on the scene from about 76-80 and they were a total pain in the arse. They had no time for the finer things in life - like 'when Saturday comes' - and I could get no time to myself, so I basically kept them at arms length.

Then I met our lass in 83 ish who hates Soul music with a passion but we get on fantastic in all other departments and I still love her to bits after 20 years of marriage.

I buy records and clothes, she buys books and clothes - so no drama's really. Every thing seems to balance itself out - and she likes to boogie anyway, so I can at least get a bit of 'soulful' house downstairs in Po Na Na's. In reality, it's work these day's which gets in the way of soul music not the other half.

Edited May 28, 2006 by Rich

[Guest kid mohair]

Luckily I tend to monopolise the music machines in my house.... and Definately no one else gets a look - in in the car!

My 15 year old lad says he hates my music - but I catch him grooving & singinging along all the time! "It's because I hear it all the time dad!" is the reply......

When I've got the boxes out and getting going on the decks at home, requests I always get from my 9 year old daughter are for

Detroit city Limits 98c + Tax, Don Gardner - M.B.L.T.Boogaloo, John Lee Hooker - Money, Jr. Wells - Checkin On My Baby, Ray Scott - Right Now, & Kim Weston - Take Me In Your Arms

jr wells great record rowly our 4 year old grandson as got some records of is own, the other day he said, try the b side, i couldent believe it , cool or what

[Guest sydney bridge]

if your thinking of taking on a non soulie partner,its best to look for someone who uses this..................................

[asboannie]

Both of us are soulie's, we get on great, will be married 21 years this July .... we have the same taste in records...and have our own record collection, except he's got the more expensive ones ...so no argument there about the prices that we pay, and no argument about why and when receive the records .

[Codfromderby]

the other half was brought up on a diet of donnington rock festival classics, and now her favourite record is the broadways "you just dont know"

my youngest daughter aged 5, asked her dance teacher if she had "albeta" , guess what 45 on mainstream is played a lot in our house?

my son aged 9 had a mate round to play, he could not understand why his mate did not know the words to sing along to "stepping out of the picture"

it gets to them eventually

[Maark]

My seven year old daughter loves soul and has loads of favourites. In the car, that's all we listen too However, on the occassion of her 6th birthday party, which was a disco, I asked her if i should bring along some of her favourite soul tunes. "No dad, they only playing GROOVY music!" she replied!

Have family or friends ever admitted to liking a soul record when they normally slag the music off?

My 8yr old son, who has had his mind poisoned by his mother, secretly tells me and asks me to play Showdown by Archie Bell. He likes the talking at the begining.

My 18yr old daughter when she was younger used to ask me to play a tape in the car with What by Judy Street but she would never admit to liking it at home.

What records have your loved ones owned up to liking?

KTF.

Drew.

[Gert Mark]

I used to go out with a northern soul girl in the early 80's and hated it. I know its selfish but i dont want any other considerations at all nighters, so i swore i never would again.

Then i met my wife at the 100 club about 9 years ago and have the best of both worlds, she loves the music and dancing but realy dislikes the "scene" thing. So we play music at home all the time but she rarely comes to nighters, bliss

[Guest]

My wife of 25 years is a non soulie but having kicked the vinyl collecting habit I do not get too much grief.

When I first returned to the scene it was called my mid life crisis to which I would reply that at least I had not bought a 15 grand harley or run off with a young bimbo.

The trick is to not push your luck which means limiting the nighters and soul nights to a level that she will tolerate.

My job means the odd night shift so she is used to me not being at home every night which helps with the nighters.

It is hard on a Sunday back home after a nighter not to be too "animated" and I have to explain that I do not go to bed so that we can spend the rest of the day together.

The other problem is the Sunday roast that I have to push around the plate because I normally eat like a horse.

[Guest markmtfc]

Ive been lucky, been together now 12 years with my mrs, she used to go to the old leeds central, and i was originally from the midlands, its bliss.

My eight year old daughter fav at the moment, Hes coming home, Beverley Ann

Breakaway, Steve Karmen, Whole new plan, Joanne Garrett, we fight over what we gonna play next. LOL

[Guest Andy BB]

It just doesnt work..i was married to a non soulie,in the end she divorced me...unreasonable record collecting!

What the virtuous Mr H has forgotten to mention is the other Northern Soul related incident cited in his divorce.

I put it to you ladies and gentlemen of the jury that the said Mr H did return from an allnighter at the 100 Club only to find his then missus nagging him, ( a not uncommon occurence), for a brew.

Feeling a little mischievous, and having some spare left over in his pocket, he did, very probably with malice and forethought, empty the contents of one plastic money bag into the cup of tea and hand it over to aforementioned nagging missus.

Three sleepless nights later she was glaring down at him from the ceiling like a particularly peeved gargoyle - but I bet she left him to have a kip after the next nighter

The moral of the story - When us menfolk return from a hard nights soulin' - just lay off the chatter, put the kettle on and make us a nice cup of tea eh?

Good girls.

[asboannie]

The moral of the story - When us menfolk return from a hard nights soulin' - just lay off the chatter, put the kettle on and make us a nice cup of tea eh?

Good girls.

When we go to all-nighters together we do our own thing, maybe meet up somewhere along the line .

[Nick Hackett]

What the virtuous Mr H has forgotten to mention is the other Northern Soul related incident cited in his divorce.

I put it to you ladies and gentlemen of the jury that the said Mr H did return from an allnighter at the 100 Club only to find his then missus nagging him, ( a not uncommon occurence), for a brew.

Feeling a little mischievous, and having some spare left over in his pocket, he did, very probably with malice and forethought, empty the contents of one plastic money bag into the cup of tea and hand it over to aforementioned nagging missus.

Three sleepless nights later she was glaring down at him from the ceiling like a particularly peeved gargoyle - but I bet she left him to have a kip after the next nighter

The moral of the story - When us menfolk return from a hard nights soulin' - just lay off the chatter, put the kettle on and make us a nice cup of tea eh?

Good girls.

Non soulies just have no taste!

[Guest]

Two soulies with small children is probably the worst combination of all

One of us is a bit of a handful who likes everyone to know that they are in the room the other one is fairly quiet and is happy just to dance and have a quiet chat

The arguements start when Michael doesn't have to work at the weekend. They generally start with "its my turn to go out" to which I reply "but the kids NEVER see you so perhaps I should go" or "but at least I ALWAYS enjoy myself, so I should go" or "I'm at home with the kids ALL the time, its NOT FAIR if you go"

There's generally one of us sulking on a Sunday

[Guest]

Kirsty is right, both being soulies with small children is a problem. I am quite fortunate that the hubby only likes Modern, so if it is a northern only do he is happy to babysit.

I'm also quite lucky that my parents will babysit quite a lot.

Arguments do arise sometimes when there is a do on that he wants to go to & so do I & my parents cant babysit. I know that I have to let him go as I am generally out once or twice a weekend, where as he is out every couple of months. It dosent stop me sulking though .

I think if we went out together all the time though we would throttle each other, I see enough of him as it is. Its nice to go out without each other with like minded people in an atmosphere you feel safe in.

Kx

[Eamesy]

Non soulies just have no taste!

Great story Nick!!! I was married to soulie for 22 years, Wigan, St Ives, Yate, been out with a few non - soulies - cant cope with Robbie Williams etc in the car or anywhere else, so its got to be soulie or nothing for me!!

Alan

[Billywhizz]

Non soulies just have no taste!

I might be abit old fashion forget about the girl looks personality if she don't like soul or n soul then you got to blank it.

Billy

[Simsy]

I always liked me old mucker Smudge's take on non soulies :- "Simsy they don't know do they" ..

[Stuart Bower]

What's it like being married to another soulie though? Isn't it worse having them tag along to soul nights and share your records !!! Especially one you've converted and ends up knowing more than you do ... What if they hate your favourite sound? What if they prefer R&B and you like disco?

Good thread

M.

I prefer 6T`S and R&B. She prefers modern.

I wouldnt live with a non soulie. Ex wife first date Casino . Ex partner first date Longton miners nighter / Stoke . Current partner first date Cricketers nighter . If they aint got Soul they aint got me.

Steve

Hear, hear to that.

[Nick Hackett]

Edited June 2, 2006 by nick hackett

[Stateside]

Living with a non soulie is easy - it gives me my own space and my own interest away from family life. I do listen to my other half's music which tends to be modern R&B so we don't have Robbie Williams or any chart stuff and we both like Jazz. I occasionaly do cd's for her car which I call Northern Soul Lite - consisting of stuff she's heard me play that she likes - more what I would call listenable than danceable - stuff like Sandra Wright - I come running back and Patti Drew - Tired of falling in and out of love - you could say that she is a closet soulie. She's never been to a venue and has no desire to go.

My girls, one aged 6 and one 9, love stuff like Spiral Starecase, Dana Valery, Nancy Ames and Lynne Randell - Pop stuff I suppose you could call it.